I provide a cognitive behavior based therapy to individuals focusing on defining problems in terms of emotion, thought, and behavior. Once the problem is defined, we can then begin exploring what we can do differently to get different results. Finally, we build upon the strengths that emerge and measure the demonstrated positive outcomes.
I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times. - Bruce Lee
When I work with couples and families, I utilize a structural model of therapy which explores the dynamics and boundaries within the family. The goal is to create a solid foundation and hierarchy for parents to lead from. Once these mechanics are illuminated, we play them out in session to make them shine at home.
Over the years, there is a lot I have learned to integrate into my in room work. From empty chair work, writing letters to future self, narrative elements…to having a sound understanding of trauma and human development…and all the way to exploring the transference that comes up in session and having the talks about mom, dad, family secrets, and early experiences. There is a lot I have to pull from and I have learned that even then, sometimes people just need a space to speak, reflect, get feedback, and problem solve. Sometimes, we might have to sit with difficult feelings and challenge ourselves to sit upright too.
No magic pill, no rabbit in the hat.
Two humans in the room.
I worked really hard and took a ton of trainings to get independently certified by California’s Sex Offender Management Board. I ran six years of solid group therapy, in person, and ultimately decided to walk away from this field. Why? Because an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. I manifest this vision through my group Inconvenient Victims and by bringing perspectives of sexual offending, assertive skills, pornography’s impact, and tailoring this to empower the survivor and address the needs of parents raising kids in a world where technology has ran off with humanity.
Just throw away all thoughts of imaginary things and stand firm in that which you are. -Kabir